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Selecting the wedding party.

This can be a very challenging endeavor. The choices can be heart-wrenchingly difficult. It becomes more difficult when you feel you can not include all of your friends. Tradition is that your families will be on the top of that list for both of you. However if you are not close with them: choose the next dearest and nearest. Be sure those you choose are people that you communicate with regularly. However, before making the choice think about these factors: Will I still be close to this person in five years? Friendships can fade. Weddings can add stress to your friendships.

Consider: will this request be a difficult financial burden on my family or friends? Please understand that no matter how considerate you are in your choices: being in a wedding is and expensive undertaking. It is not uncommon for a bridesmaid to spend anywhere from $500 to $1000 for her part in the wedding. These expenses include her apparel, time off work, hair, make-up, nails, gifts, showers, batchelorette parties.

I recall working with a bride who was having her wedding here in Michigan and had asked her family in Colorado, all 6 members, to be in the wedding. I could not help but ask her if she had actually considered what she was asking them to undertake? Be polite and offer a no pressure opt out for any who can not stretch their budgets to fit the expenses. I have seen countless friendships hit the rocks over the financial demands of being in a wedding. Be kind, be considerate and if you want something that is out of someones budget: be prepared to pay for it yourself!

Remember, everyone does not have to be IN the wedding. You will need people to help you with various small tasks both leading up to the wedding and the day of the wedding. So, beyond bridesmaids and groomsmen you will likely need: 1. Personal Attendant 2. Guest Book Attendant 3. Cake Attendant 4. Master & Mistress of Ceremonies 5. Greeter for the cermony and reception. 6. Candle Lighter. 7. Help with the invitations. 8. Help with the favors, if you are a D.I.Y. bride. 9. Help getting all those things where they need to be when they need to be there.

In choosing your maid of honor: be certain that she (or he) is an individual who will be your right hand through out the entire planning process. They are there to be that second pair of eyes, offer emotional support as needed. The maid of honor usually gives a bridal shower and handlse the many numerous wedding day details. These might include helping you get dressed, straightening your train at the altar, holding your bouquet during the vows, collecting gift envelopes at the reception, signing the marriage license, and a toast to the bride and groom. she is the last person to walk down the aisle before you and she is charged with carrying the grooms wedding band on her thumb.

As you see, there are many ways you can involve those you love without asking them to bear the expense of stan ding at the alter by your side. Most importantly, at the end of the day, you don't want to have alienated your friends and family for the sake of a dream. Keep the actual goal in mind, at the end of the day: you will be married!